Sunday, April 22, 2007

My wife is pushing me to go with Tabligh! Who are they and what to do? Answered by Imam Suhaib Webb

March 1st, 2007 — the translators
Imam Suhaib!
“My wife is constantly bothering me about going with Tabligh Jamat? I do other acts of goodness and don’t really want to join these people. At times she starts to drive me crazy and says I need to do something for the ummah? Please give me some background on this group and tell me how to deal with my wife?”
Tabligh’s Beginnings
Tablighi Jamat represents one of the great efforts to revive the faith of Islam in the hearts of Muslims. Their founder, Mawlana Ilyas (may Allah have mercy on him) was a man of great piety and concern for the Umma. His father was Mawlana Muhammad Ismail (may Allah have mercy on him) who, although a great learned man, was known for drawing water from wells, serving travelers and then offering two rakats of shukr to Allah for blessing him to serve them. He died in 1896 and his funeral prayer was so crowded that it had to be repeated. Shortly after his prayer, a pious man saw him in his dream saying, “Send me off soon. I am feeling ashamed The Holy Prophet is waiting for me.”
His mother, Bibi Safia (may Allah have mercy on her) memorized the entire Qur’an and was known for reading 10 Ajza (parts) of Qur’an every day during the month of Ramadan. She was known for her piety and reverence in worship. She was not only a worshiper of Allah, but she was a Murabiyah, who built and nurtured the young Mawlana and watered him from the blessed spring of Islam. Once, seeing something great in her son’s future, she said to him, “Ilyas, I feel the aroma of the holy Companions in you.” She used to place her hand on his back, and would say, “How is it that I see figures resembling the holy Companions moving along with you?”
The blessed fruit of these noble parents, Mawlana Ilyas, was born in 1885. It was in this home that the Mawlana was raised and nurtured on faith and actions. Once, the Mawlana, describing his grandmother, stated that she had become so engrossed in her worship and dhikr that she stopped eating. It was said to her, “You are old and weak and must eat!” She responded, “I draw sustenance from my tasbihat (remembrance of Allah).” Thus, the young Mawlana was surrounded by pious examples of people who were so attached to Allah that the world attached to them.
The Mawlana memorized the entire Qur’an at a young age and continued his studies of different Islamic sciences. He was known for having an intense presence about him. One day his teacher said to him, “When I see Muhammad Ilyas, I am reminded of the Companions (may Allah be pleased with them).” He was known for a strong intellect and excelled his peers in all of his studies. He had a number of great teachers and was blessed to study the works of Bukhari and Tirmithi; however, he was struck by an illness which led to his increase in studies and spiritual devotion.
In 1910 he assumed a teaching position at a famous school. After the death of his two brothers, and almost his own, the Mawlana moved to Dehli and began to teach. There he witnessed the horrible conditions of the Muslim Umma. In fact, it is well known that the Muslims there had adopted Hindu names, forgot their prayers and observed Hindu rights and festivals over their own. Under these conditions the heart of this saint pushed him to act. It was not sufficient for the Mawlana to focus solely on himself, but his true devotion to Allah and the Prophet (Allah bless him and grant him pece) led him to openly address the ills of the society. Thus, like the famous scholars before him, he not only focused on the purification of his soul, but the purification of his society and the Muslims around him. Thus, he was led to open a number of schools and educational institutions that focused on reviving the core Islamic teachings amongst the people. It was through this effort that Tablighi Jamat was born.
I’m sure many of our readers are wondering, why the long answer. Let me state that I felt it was an obligation to give them a small glimpse into the life of one of the greatest reformers our Muslim nation has seen in the last 200 years.
Summary of Tablighi Jamat:
Tablighi Jamat is a movement designed to bring faith back into the lives of the Muslims. They focus on five major duties and travel to different locations in order to spread the message of faith and dawa (calling to Allah) to other Muslims. They serve as one of the important alarm clocks whose job is to awaken a sleeping Umma, and remind it of its noble position and tasks. Members are encouraged to go for 3 days in a month, 40 days in a year and, if possible, 4 months in a lifetime.
Answer to the question:
Akhi, I think you should be happy that your wife is complaining that you’re not making dawa, praying, or doing enough for Allah’s deen. It sure beats hearing someone complain about the bills, not having the latest Visa Platinum or a new SUV etc. In fact, such a wife is one of the greatest gifts of Allah. The Prophet (peace and blessings upon him) said, “This world is nothing but goods. And the best thing in this life is a righteous wife.” Thus, instead of being angry at your wife, you should praise Allah that he has blessed you with her and she is encouraging you to look after your faith.
As was mentioned earlier, Tablighi Jamat serves as one of the many alarm clocks that Allah has used to wake up this umma. There are many such that are working to benefit others and do good in society. All of these groups have good and bad qualities, thus, what is obligated is to follow the truth. The Prophet (peace and blessings upon him) said, “Wisdom is the lost property of the believer.” Thus, one should approach these different groups as one would a fruit garden, examine the fruit and take what is good, If you are able to correct the wrongs found in these groups, based on sound knowledge and wisdom then you should do so. In addition, one of the dangers that any group possesses is a blind fanaticism (ta’assub) which, at times, causes splitting and hatred to appear in the hearts of the believers. It is important to realize that these groups are mere custodians of the umma and not vice versa. Thus, if you are not comfortable with Tabligh, then try and work with another group in your city or location. Islamic work is needed today in the West more than ever. Thus, work with groups who cling to the way of the sunna, avoid extremes on any side, and seek Allah’s assistance.
As for your wife, mention to her the story of Imam Malik (may Allah have mercy on him): Once a man from the people of renunciation (zuhd) sent him a letter, chastising him for not fasting enough, praying in the night or wearing shabby clothes. The Imam responded by saying, “Allah has distributed actions amongst His servants as He has distributed their sustenance.” Then he mentioned how Allah has placed the love of certain types of worship (ibada) in the hearts of His servants. Thus, you would have a person who loved seeking knowledge, one who loved zuhd and another who loved dawa. The Imam finished his letter by saying, “I have no doubt that you’re on good from your Lord and I’m on good from Him as well.” Thus, you can explain to her, it is very normal for one to be inclined to a certain type of Islamic group. Then, explain to her where your heart leads you and perhaps try to compromise. One night a week you can attend different programs together as a family. Thus, one week for her flavor and the next for yours.
Finally, nicely remind your beloved that it impossible for anyone to know what is in the hearts of Allah’s servants. Thus, if you do something good, she should assume the best and avoid the whispers of Shaytan. The Prophet (peace and blessings upon him) said, “Be careful of suspicion. For, indeed, it is the worst type of speech.”
A Few Points:
1. Mawlana Ilyas (may Allah have mercy on him) did not appear out of a vacuum. Like so many other great luminaries of our umma, the Mawlana was surrounded by wonderful parents who encouraged him to be a great Muslim. Thus, our brothers and sisters should focus on raising the next Imam Shafi’i, Malik or Salah al-din. Therefore, try to teach your children about the Sahaba (may Allah be well pleased with them). Then ask them to choose their favorite. Try to encourage that child to emulate the characteristics of that Sahabi. But remember that the most important lesson they will learn, are those that illuminate from the parents.
2. True tazkiyah leads one past mere focus upon the soul. A true servant of Allah is also concerned with the conditions and situations around him. Ibn Kathir relates that once Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) was asked, “Who is better? One who stays away from others, or one who mingles with others and continues to worship Allah?” Umar said, “Those who mingle with others, put up with their difficulties and continues to worship Allah, “Indeed, they are those whom Allah has tested their hearts for Taqwa.” At the same time mere actions with no inner connection are like an empty cup. Thus, Mawlana Ilyas represented a rare balance of a person. He had a personality built on sound knowledge, sound tazkiyah and sound actions.
3. It is important to realize that the Ahl-Sunna is very wide. It is very dangerous to declare different groups out of Ahl al-Sunna based on one’s mere love for their group. Thus, such issues should be left to the scholars. One thing that one should do is not merely listen to what others say about certain scholars such as Imam Ghazali or Ibn Taymiyya. It is always better to read about their lives and understand the historical and cultural realities that they dealt with.
4. In general it is important to realize that people are different when it comes to different acts of worship. Thus, a truly wise person recognizes this and tries to facilitate the needs of his or her family or community. It is important for MSA’s and masjids to organize programs that benefit all community members. We must move past group politics and work towards realistic unity.
5. The state of the heart is known only to Allah. Thus, questioning another’s intention is something that should be avoided. The great knower of Allah, Junaid (may Allah have mercy upon him), said, “Ikhlas is a secret between Allah and His servant. No angel knows it, nor can any shaytan overcome it.”
6. The virtue of having a pious good fearing wife.
I ask Allah to protect us from ta’assub (blind fanaticism) and hatred. I ask Him to unite the hearts of the umma and make us as one body.
And Allah knows best
Suhaib Webb
TheTranslators 2007

27 comments:

learner April 23, 2007 at 10:51 PM  

assalamualiku bro maani
jazakAllah khair for information on tableegh jamat

Muhammad Imran Ali April 24, 2007 at 9:18 PM  

Wa alaikum as salaam wa rahmatullah-e-wa barakaatuho, wa jazaka aidhan, Insha'Allah Aameen. thnx sis learner, kindly remember me in ur pryrs.

learner April 28, 2007 at 7:10 PM  

assalamualaikum bro maani
i asked an alim whther a woman can go places for dawah work. i am pasting the reply
wasalam
In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful

Praise be to Allaah.

Question:
Can a woman do da'wah outside her home, and how?

Answer:

Praise be to Allaah.

A woman can do da'wah inside her home, with her husband and mahrams, men and women alike. She can also do da'wah outside the home, to other women, so long as this does not involve travelling without her husband or mahram, and there is no fear of fitnah (temptation), and this is done with the husband's permission if she is married and there is a need for that, and this does not lead to her neglecting her primary duties, which are towards her own family.


From Fataawaa al-Lajnah al-Daa'imah, 12/249-250

Muhammad Imran Ali April 29, 2007 at 8:06 PM  

Wa alaikum as salaam wa rahmatullah-e-wa barakaatuho,
Jazakallah e Khairan sis learner 4 ur reply :) i hope now Insha'Allah u wud b satisfy, i think this is the same answer which i gave u when u asked me the same question, though i m nor an aalim neither a mufti n also dont have enuf knowledge, i m still in learning process, but Alhamdulillah Summa Alhamdulillah, after joining this mission, i m feeling some betterment in myself, Alhamdulillah its all by the mercy of Allah SWT. sis, now a days i m trying 2 convince the others dat atleast once in our lives, v shud check the taste of this holy mission, Wallahi its really amazing. Our ameer sahab ( leader of our jamah) often used 2 say these words in urdu 2 us,

Maktaba-e-ishq ka dastoor nirala dekha, usko chutti na mili jisney sabaq yaad kiya.

May Allah SWT grant the higher degrees of emaan 2 that aalim sahab wid whom u consulted the matter, Aameen. i m not even equal 2 the dust of his feet, but let me include dat u can also do this work in ur neighbourhood, in ur family n in ur social circle ( like close frnds). coz as v r watching now a days, dat v r going astray n far far away 4om our deen, so i personally think dat v need 2 purify our emaans as soon as possible b4 the qahar of Allah SWT overcomes us. n i think the only way 2 purify 1's emaan is 2 join any islamic activity or jamah 4 his own benefit, except sofism or rahbaaniyat, bcoz these things r prohibited in our deen ( 2 totally cut of 4om the worldly matters). Islam teaches us 2 lead our life wid equality, both in deen n duniya.

Sister i feel disappointed when i c the society around, v dont even know dat what r v doing, where r v going? women of these days ask 4 the equal rights as men but they r 4getting their own duties.:(

Anyways, as u know dat i m not a well educated person, so i dont have enuf words in my poor english vocabulary 2 express my feelings, but i m sure dat Masha'Allah, Allah SWT has granted u the best wisdom 2 understand, Alhamdulillah.

So i wud love 2 request u dat kindly keep in4ming me about this kind of helpful material. May Allah SWT bless u well both here n hereafter in Jannah. Aameen Ya Rabbil Aalameen.

In our mission, ppl often use 2 laugh on us, make fun of us, n even some time they abuse us n also beat us. but Our Prophet SAW had also faced all these difficulties (even more than these) in his life. but he alwz used 2 pray 4 them. dats what v try 2 do when ppl treat us wid same manners.

this act of our great Prophet Muhammad SAW teaches us dat how 2 remain patient and calm under any stress.

n u know Innallaha Ma'Asabireen.

So i must say dat v all shud alwz try 2 gain the redha of Allah SWT, bcoz widout the redha of Allah SWT v cant even wake ourselves up 4om the sleep. what is this except his blessing dat he let us wake up daily 4om half death, n even then v dont praise him n b thankfull 2 him, n dont repent on our wrong deeds.:(

May Allah SWT grant all of us the hidayah n make us the source of hidayah 4 others.

Aameen Ya Rabbil Aalameen

in the end once again Jazakallah e khairan wa kathiran.

it wud b a gr8 honour 4 me if u wud like 2 provide me any of ur articles 2 post on my blog.

May Allah SWT bless U. Aameen
Fee Amaan Allah, Ma'Assalaama.

learner April 30, 2007 at 8:45 PM  

assalamualaikum bro maani
jazakAllah khair for ur advice and ur kind words

may Allah help in ur mission and make the path easy for u ameen

my knowldge abt islam is so less tht is not even measurables when compared to vast ocean of islam
i have just started , still at nursery level in islam, long way togo inshAllah
may Allah grant us all the right knowldge and wisdom of HIS deen
ameen

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