Wednesday, April 1, 2009
Tuesday, June 3, 2008
10 Tip! How to be a Successful Wife
Make Dua to Allah SWT to make your marriage and relationship successful.
All good things are from Allah SWT. Never forget to ask Allah ta'ala for the blessing of having a successful marriage that begins in this Dunya and continues on - by the Mercy of Allah ta'ala - into Jannah.
- Listen and Obey!
Obeying your husband is Fard! Your husband is the Ameer of the household. Give him that right and respect.
- Always seek to please your husband, for he is your key to Jannah.
Rasul Allah – sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam – taught us that any women who dies in a state where her husband is pleased with her, shall enter Jannah. So .. please him.
- An argument is a fire in the house. Extinguish it with a simple ‘I’m sorry’ even if it is not your fault.
When you fight back, you are only adding wood to the fire. Watch how sweetly an argument will end when you just say sincerely, “Look, I’m sorry. Let’s be friends.”
- Thank your husband constantly for the nice things he does. Then thank him again.
This is one of the most important techniques, as the opposite is a characteristic of the women of hellfire.
- Joke and play games with your husband.
A mans secret: they seek women who are lighthearted and have a sense of humor. As Rasul Allah – sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam – told Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would make her laugh.
- Always wear jewelry and dress up in the house.
From the early years, little girls have adorned themselves with earrings and bracelets and worn pretty dresses – as described in the Qur’an. As a wife, continue to use the jewelry that you have and the pretty dresses for your husband.
- Review the characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn and try to imitate them
The Qur’an and Sunnah describe the women in Jannah with certain characteristics. Such as the silk they wear, their large dark eyes, their singing to their husband, etc. Try it, wear silk for your husband, put Kohl in your eyes to ‘enlarge’ them, and sing to your husband.
- When your husband comes home, greet him with a wonderful greeting.
Imagine your husband coming home to a clean house, an exquisitely dressed wife, a dinner prepared with care, children clean and sweet smelling, a clean bedroom – what would this do to his love for you? Now imagine what the opposite does to him.
- Use your ‘Fitnah’ to win the heart of your husband
All women have the ornaments that Allah SWT blessed them with. Use the beauty Allah - Azza wa Jal - has bestowed you with to win the heart of your husband.
May Allah SWT grant all da women enuf wisdom to act upon these tips n make their married life happy n full of barakahs. Aameen Summa Aameen.
Read more...Thursday, October 25, 2007
10 Tips! How to be a Successful Husband
- Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good.When was the last time us men went shopping for designer pajamas? Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.
- Use the cutest names for your wife. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - had nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings.
- Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day - which brings no attention from the husband - until she does something to 'bug' him. Don't treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that.
- If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives - radi Allahu 'anhunn. It's a technique that few Muslim men have mastered.
- Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those Ahadith when Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would kiss his wife before leaving for Salah, even if he was fasting.
- Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don't let that be; thank her!
- Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.
- Don't be little her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah - radi Allahu 'anha - was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel.
- Be humorous and Play games with your wife. Look at how Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would race his wife Aisha - radi Allahu 'anha - in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that?
- Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam: "The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family." Try to be the best!
In conclusion: Never forget to make Dua to Allah - azza wa jall - to make your marriage successful (Aameen).
And Allah ta'ala knows best !!
Read more...Saturday, May 5, 2007
Our Role Today is The Same as the Role of the Great Messengers of Allah (Part-3, Last)
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
Fourth: Reforming and purifying the People's Souls.
Fifth: Correcting Misguidance and Corruption in the Life of the People.
The sixth task is to run our affairs as Muslims according to the laws of Allah:
First, conveying the message of Islam in the clearest way.
Second, calling all people to Allah
Third, giving glad tidings and warnings, which were given to us by Allah.
Fourth, reforming and purifying the souls of the people.
Fifth, correcting Misguidance and Corruption in the Life of the People.
Sixth, is to run our affairs as Muslims according to the laws of Allah.
May Peace, Blessings n Mercy of Allmighty Allah SWT be on all of U.
Aameen Ya Rabbil Aalameen
May Allah SWT grant all of us the hidayah n make us the source of hidayah 4 others.
Aameen Ya Rabbil Aalameen
kindly remember me in ur prys, Jazakallah e khairan wa kathiran, Fee Amaan Allah Read more...
Sunday, April 29, 2007
Patience: The Superior Solution ( 4 those who let themselves surrounded by grieves and sorrows )
Patience, the focus of about 200 verses of the Qur’an, and referred to indirectly in many others, may be termed the core subject of the scriptures.
The verses directly relating to patience are quite explicit in their content. For instance,
And seek (Allah’s) help with patience and prayer. (2:45)And endure patiently whatever may befall thee. (31:17)And exhort one another to be patient. (103:3)And heed not their annoyance, but put thy trust in Allah. (33:48)
A very pronounced and direct instruction to behave with patience and endurance is apparent in these verses.
The majority of the other verses are also intensely concerned with patience. The very first verse of the Qur’an begins with "Praise belongs to Allah." (al-Fatiha) This shows that Allah expects mankind to express its gratitude and admiration to Him. But this is a very trying expectation! We know that this world is full of unpleasant experiences and nobody can be insulated from them. According to the Qur’an "Man is born in toil." Indeed, it is not possible for anyone to create a life of absolute bliss for himself.
How then a person can become grateful and appreciative of Allah’s grace in the real sense? The only way to be so is through patience. It is only when a man patiently endures worldly problems that it is possible for him to express his feeling of gratefulness to Allah. It is for this reason that the Qur’an associates gratefulness with patience. (31:31)Patience makes a person capable of finding a positive and successful solution to any problem. When someone explodes with anger while facing his adversary, he loses the faculty to respond effectively or to think of well-planned action. But when he applies patience and tolerance, he finds himself competent to make a rational move instead of an impulsive reaction. History testifies that one who acts on impulses and emotional reactions, invariably fails; and one who responds rationally, always succeeds.
Patience is undoubtedly the superior solution to all problems.
Read more...Sunday, April 22, 2007
My wife is pushing me to go with Tabligh! Who are they and what to do? Answered by Imam Suhaib Webb
Suhaib Webb
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Saturday, April 21, 2007
Our Role Today is The Same as the Role of the Great Messengers of Allah (Part-2)
- The second task is giving Da’wah (calling) the people to Allah:
- The third task is giving glad tidings and warnings:
Thursday, April 19, 2007
The Power of Dua.
Wednesday, April 18, 2007
Be Thankful To Allah SWT
Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire,
If you did, what would there be to look forward to?
Be thankful when you don't know something,
For it gives you the opportunity to learn.
Be thankful for the difficult times,
During those times you grow.
Be thankful for your limitations,
Because they give you opportunities for improvement.
Be thankful for each new challenge,
Because it will build your strength and character.
Be thankful for your mistakes,
They will teach you valuable lessons.
Be thankful when you're tired and weary,
Because it means you've made a difference.
It is easy to be thankful for the good things.
A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are also
thankful for the setbacks.
GRATITUDE can turn a negative into a positive.
Find a way to be thankful for your troubles and theycan become your blessings.
I AM TOO BUSY
My Prayers Has Been Answerd (Alhamdulillah)
I asked for Strength.........
And Allah SWT gave me Difficulties to make me strong.
I asked for Wisdom.........
And Allah SWT gave me Problems to solve.
I asked for Prosperity.........
And Allah SWT gave me Brain and Brawn to work.
I asked for Courage.........
And Allah SWT gave me Danger to overcome.
I asked for Love.........
And Allah SWT gave me Troubled people to help.
I asked for Favours.........
And Allah SWT gave me Opportunities.
I received nothing I wanted
I received everything I needed
My Prayer has been answered
(Alhamdulillah)
Monday, April 16, 2007
Our Role Today is The Same as the Role of the Great Messengers of Allah (Part-1)

In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
Many of us wonder today: What is our role as Muslims in this non-Islamic society? Asking this question is a good thing in itself because it indicates the beginning of the awareness in the mind of the Muslims, after a long absence.
This is an important and a dangerous question because it searches for an answer for a fundamental and a vital issue in our lives; if the correct answer is not found, then we will end up with the wrong one which may threaten our future and the future of Islam in America.
There is a good chance that the wrong answer will be found because of many factors:
The ignorance of many Muslims in the reality of Islam and its role in saving humanity.
The lack of awareness of the reality of this age, the status of the Muslim Ummah, the events that occur on the world level, the conspiracies of the enemies to put down and destroy Islam and end its role in the world or give it a marginal role by redefining Islam with a new fake definition.
The defeated mentality is dominant among many Muslims today. This came as a result of defeat and the absolute astonishment at what the non-Muslims have as civilization, technologies, and even culture.
The vain desires, the love of this worldly life and the hatred of death, by undervaluing the hereafter, influenced the minds and personality of many Muslims.
The many misguiding and forced solutions presented to Muslims by their enemies who work very hard in a deceiving manner to tell us what is our role today in this society. These enemies forced the wrong and false answers onto us deceivingly in many ways. They also removed the correct original answers and attacked it by describing it and the people who believe and carry this answer with the worst descriptions. This is so that the Muslim will get away from them and hate the correct answer instead of adopting it and working to establish it. Allah (S.W.T.) says in Surat Al-Anfal, (Verse 30), what can be translated as, "They were plotting and Allah too was planning, and Allah is the Best of the planners."
What makes things more complicated and the vision more erroneous is that some loyal sincere Muslims fell into the trap that the enemies of Islam have set up and skillfully designed. These sincere Muslims with their followers and those whom they influence took the wrong way that was defined for them. These Muslims became the fuel and the workers in a conspiracy that they did not plan and will not benefit from either in the short term or the long term. Furthermore, if someone pointed out their mistakes, that they are adopting, they would find justification for the errors in the religious texts that justifies their position. This is done without deep investigation and verification until we become like the prophet (S.A.W.) said in a trial that makes the intellectuals confused.
What is our role in this age and in this society as Muslims?
To answer this question, first of all, we do not need to devise a new role. This is because our role had already been defined to us by Allah (S.W.T.) a long time ago. Many great messengers played that role, and achieved many reforms and saved the humanity throughout the course of history.
All we need today is to rediscover and explore this role and know its characteristics by removing the ruins and debris away from it until we can clear its beautiful picture, and then to adopt it and behave according to it. If we do that, then we will save ourselves and the entire humanity with the help of Allah (S.W.T.) like the messengers do.
All of us know and believe that Allah (S.W.T.) the One who created the creations did not leave people without guidance; on the contrary, he devised to all humanity a complete and comprehensive system of life. Which was carried by the messengers from one generation to the next. This
role of the messengers had never changed or altered with the differences of age or place that they were sent in from Noah until the prophet Mohammad (S.A.W.); the seal of all prophets and messengers.
Today, Muslims are in fact the followers and true inheritors of those messengers and are the extension of truthfulness. Allah (S.W.T.) has sealed the messages and the messengers with the prophet Mohammad (S.A.W.) and made their role to be played by the messengers' heirs who are the Muslims till the Day of Judgment.
This role has not changed with time nor has it changed with place; its phases, goals and ends have remained unchanged. What have changed are its means and tools that may differ according to time and place.
Now, I will present the role of the messengers and their tasks so that we know our role in this life.
First, is conveying the message in the clearest way:
The messengers are the ambassadors of Allah (S.W.T.) to his servants and the carriers of his revelations. Their first task is to deliver and convey this trust, which they carried to the servants of Allah. Allah (S.W.T.) says in Surat Al-Ma’idah, (Verse 67), what can be translated as, "O’ Messenger (Mohammed)! Proclaim (the message) which has been sent down to you from your Lord. And if you do not, then you have not conveyed His Message."
Conveying the message needs courage and not to fear the people. This is needed because the person will deliver to them what is completely different and conflicts with their Aqeedah, their status, and desires that they have lived with for a long time. Allah (S.W.T.) says in Surat Al-Ahzab, (Verse 39), what can be translated as, "Those who convey the Message of Allah and fear Him, and fear none except Allah…"
Conveying the message should be done by reciting the verses that Allah (S.W.T.) has revealed no more or less. Allah (S.W.T.) says, commanding the Prophet Mohammed, in Surat Al-Ankabut, (Verse 45), what can be translated as, "Recite (O Mohammed) what has been revealed
to you of the Book (the Qur’an)…" Allah also says in another verse, (151),
Surat Al-Baqarah, what can be translated as, "Similarly We have sent among you a Messenger (Mohammed) of your own, reciting to you Our
Verses the (Qur’an)…" So, if the revelation is not a divine text that is to be recited meaning the Prophet’s tradition (Sunnah), then conveying the message is by clarifying the commands and the prohibitions and the meanings and the knowledge that Allah (S.W.T.) had revealed no more no less.
From conveying the message the messenger should clarify and explain clearly the meaning and goals of the revelation that Allah had sent down to his servants. This is because he, the messenger, knows better than anyone else about what Allah (S.W.T.) means from his revelation.
In this context, Allah (S.W.T.) says in surat An-Nahil, (Verse 44), what can be translated as, "… And We have also sent down unto you (O’ Mohammed) the reminder and the advice (the Qur’an) that you may explain clearly to men what is sent down to them…" The prophet (S.A.W.) may clarify the meaning of the revelation by his saying, doing, or consent. From here came the Sunnah of Prophet Mohammed (S.A.W.) to clarify many Qur'anic verses.
If it happens that the people turned away from the messengers' call, the messengers can not do anything except to convey the message. Allah (S.W.T.) says in surat Al-‘Imran, (Verse 20), what can be translated as, "…But if they turn away, your duty is only to convey the Message…" Allah also says to the people in surat Al-ma’idah, (Verse 92), what can be translated as "...Then if you (people) turn away, you should know that it is Our Messenger’s duty to convey (the message) in the clearest way.", and in another verse, He (S.W.T.) also says to his Prophet Mohammed in Surat As-Shura, (Verse 48), what can be translated as, "But if they turn away (O Mohammed)…We have not sent you as a hafiz (protector) over them. Your duty is to convey the message…"
So the first task and role of the great messengers is conveying the message in the clearest way to the people. And this is our first task in our role today and it should not be changed or altered.
In the next part with the help of Allah SWT (Insha'Allah) we will learn more about our tasks so that we will better know our true role as Muslims today.
Saturday, April 14, 2007
Who does not have problems? ( For my loving lill sister )
Thursday, April 12, 2007
Signs of week Iman
- Committing sins and not feeling any guilt.
- Having a hard heart and no desire to read the Quran.
- Feeling too lazy to do good deeds, e.g. being late for salaat
Neglecting the Sunnah. - Having mood swings, for instance being upset about petty things and bothered and irritated most of the time.
- Not feeling anything when hearing verses from the Quran, for example when Allah warns us of punishments and His promise of glad tidings.
- Finding difficulty in remembering Allah and making dhikr.
- Not feeling bad when things are done against the Shariah.
- Desiring status and wealth.
- Being mean and miserly, i.e. not wanting to part with wealth.
- Ordering others to do good deeds when not practising them ourselves.
- Feeling pleased when things are not progressing for others.
- Being concerned with whether something is haraam or halal only; and not avoiding makrooh (not recommended) things.
- Making fun of people who do simple good deeds, like cleaning the mosque, and spend their time in the way of Allah (Tableegh).
- Not feeling concerned about the situation of Muslims.
- Not feeling the responsibility to do something to promote & propagate Islam.
- Liking to argue just for the sake of arguing without any proof.
- Becoming engrossed and very involved with duniya, worldly things, i.e. feeling bad only when losing something in terms of material wealth.
Tuesday, April 10, 2007
(Dawah) The Master Key
Jazakallah-e-khairan wa Kathiran

